“When we block or suppress or push aside emotions, we actually stop ourselves from being our most effective, successful beings.”
Susan David PhD
The way we navigate our inner world – our everyday thoughts, emotions, and self-stories – is the single most important determinant of our life success. It drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health; everything. For example: Do we let our self-doubts, failings, shame, fear, or anger hold us back? Can we be determined, persevering toward key life goals, but just as importantly, have the insight and courage to recognize when these goals are not serving us, and adapt?
According to this week’s guest, the key to successfully navigating our inner world isn’t immunizing ourselves against stress and setbacks. And it doesn’t involve ignoring uncomfortable feelings. Instead, it’s developing something called emotional agility — the teachable ability to confront difficult emotions, gain critical self-insight from these feelings, and ultimately use this newfound awareness to adaptively align our values with our actions and make changes to bring the best of ourselves forward.
A pioneer in her field, Susan David, Ph.D is an award-winning psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School, CEO of Evidence Based Psychology and co-founder of the Institute of Coaching (an affiliate of Harvard Medical School). She also serves on the Scientific Advisory Boards of both Thrive Global and Virgin Pulse.
In addition, Susan is the author of the #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life*. Based on a concept Harvard Business Review heralded as a Management Idea of the Year, it’s a powerful roadmap for real behavioral change — a new way of acting that will help you to reincorporate your most troubling feelings as a source of energy and creativity, and live your most successful life whoever you are and whatever you face.
Susan is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Washington Post, and Wall Street Journal. She is a sought-after speaker and consultant, with clients that include the World Economic Forum, the United Nations, Google, Microsoft, NASDAQ, and many others.
If you are new to Susan, start with her moving TED Talk, The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage. A viral sensation and the inspiration for me seeking her out for the podcast, it’s accumulated almost 2 million views in the month since it’s online publication.
This is a conversation about Susan’s life growing up in a South Africa divided by Apartheid, and how this experience informs her work today.
It’s about how and why our emotional landscape, the everyday thoughts and stories we often hide from the world and oftentimes ourselves, are the single most important determinant of life success. And why navigating life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind leads to empowerment and agency.
It’s about why we must overcome the urge to ignore difficult emotions and behaviors to instead face them willingly, as a neutral observer, with curiosity and kindness.
It’s about identifying your core values as a path to willpower, resilience and effectiveness.
And it’s about how developing this skill called emotional agility – essentially mastery over our emotions, thoughts and stories — can benefit not just ourselves but our children, helping even our youngest become better problem solvers and engaged learners more resilient against anxiety and depression.
But more than anything, this is a conversation about the perils of avoiding uncomfortable feelings.
Because the tough emotions are the price we pay for a meaningful life.
Susan is amazing. I’m grateful for this dynamic conversation. And my hope is that you will find it as helpful and entertaining as I did.
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Background, Context & Reference
- Connect With Susan: Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Instagram
- TEDWoman 2017: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage
- BigThink: The Tyranny of Positivity: A Harvard Psychologist Details Our Unhealthy Obsession With Happiness
- Harvard Business Review: Emotional Agility by by Susan David & Christina Congleton
- Ideas TED.com: Want to help your resolutions stick? Make this one-word change by Susan David
- Time Magazine: Why You Should Embrace Your Darker Emotions by Susan David
- The New York Times: Teaching Your Child Emotional Agility by KJ Dell’Antonia
- The Washington Post: A Harvard psychologist explains why forcing positive thinking won’t make you happy by Neda Semnani
- The Cut: You Can Write Your Way Out of an Emotional Funk. Here’s How by Susan David
Books by Susan David PhD
Notable People Discussed In Today’s Podcast
- Jonathan Fields: award-winning author, media-producer, entrepreneur and (2x) podcast guest
- Alex Honnold: American rock climber best known for his free solo ascents of El Capitan and podcast guest
- Dr. Gabor Maté: physician, specializes in neurology, psychiatry, psychology, and the study and treatment of addiction. (podcast guest)
- Sam Harris: American author, philosopher, and neuroscientist
- Viktor Frankl: Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, Holocaust survivor and author of: Man’s Search For Meaning*
- Laird Hamilton: big-wave surfer, co-inventor of tow-in surfing, fashion and action-sports model
- Jamie Lee Curtis: American actress and author
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