I love my parents. I grew up with a world-class education. And yet, nobody actually ever taught me how to be an adult.
As a result, I made a ton of avoidable mistakes. I suffered far more than necessary. And I fumbled in the dark for years until eventually, I figured a few things out. Unfortunately, my experience is all too common.
Today’s guest—a woman who spent years mentoring and advising some of the brightest young people in the entire world—would agree, so she decided to do something about it.
Julie Lythcott-Haims is the former dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University, where she earned her B.A. (as my classmate) before obtaining a law degree from Harvard and a master’s in fine arts and writing from California College of the Arts.
Today Julie is an author and authority on what we now call—in Millenial parlance—adulting. Her TED Talk How to raise successful kids without over-parenting has over 5 million views, and her books include the New York Times bestseller, How To Raise An Adult and Real American—a memoir centered on coming to terms with her racial identity.
Julie’s latest work and the focus of today’s conversation is Your Turn: How To Be An Adult. For those just emerging into the grown-up world, it’s a must-read life handbook. For parents, it’s a must-gift for your young ones entering their adult phase of life. All in all, it’s a guide I very much wish existed during my formative years.
“Don’t be daunted by what you can’t do. Think about what you can do, and what you may be uniquely suited to do. And then start.”
– Julie Lythcott-Haims
This conversation is packed with practical insights for both parents and young people alike. We cover the downfalls of being a helicopter parent, the importance of learning conversation skills, and why paying attention to what you like and don’t like is more important than finding a purpose.
But more than anything, this conversation is about why diversity and inclusivity are vital in parenting, educating, and adulting.
This is appointment listening for young people emerging into the world or parents striving to best guide their kids into maturity. But no matter your age, we can all use some wisdom about how to grow up a little bit more.
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- Connect with Julie: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook
- Book: Your Turn: How to Be an Adult
- Book: Real American: A Memoir
- Book: How to Raise an Adult
- TED: How to raise successful kids—without over-parenting
- New York Times: ‘How to Raise an Adult,’ by Julie Lythcott-Haims
- New York Times: A Journey of Belonging
- New York Times: Teens Are in Crisis. So Are Their Parents.
- Option B: Julie Lythcott-Haims on Raising Resilient Kids
- NPR: Author Gives Advice For Young Adults And Reflects On Growing Up Black In A White World
- Muck Rack: Articles By Julie Lythcott-Haims
- WBUR: Author Of Best-Selling Book On Parenthood Says Her Own Made Mistakes On Race
- CBC: Adulting 101: Why being an adult is harder than ever
- Today: ‘How to Raise an Adult’ author shares her message for her multiracial kids
- Publishers Weekly: Spotlight on Julie Lythcott-Haims
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